There is no doubt that a divorce can leave you feeling deflated and down on yourself, especially when the end of your marriage was not exactly amicable. It is not surprising that many divorcees suffer from low self-esteem and confidence during a divorce. Overcoming this hurdle and moving forward with life can seem extremely difficult and impossible. However, if these negative feelings are not managed or felt with, they can lead to serious problems down the road, including anxiety, shame, guilt, and depression. Thankfully, there are a few things you can do to kick low self-esteem to the curb.
Below are a few things you can do to boost your confidence.
Practice Positive Affirmations and Self Talk
Have you ever noticed how you speak with yourself or about yourself to others? What are the undertones in those conversations? Are they positive or negative? If you are living with low self-esteem, you may find your self-talk to have negative connotations. The more you speak like this, the more you will believe it. Instead, try practicing positive self-talk. Talk to and about yourself as though you are talking to your best friend.
Adding positive self-affirmations can be a beneficial practice. Take a few moments each day to tell yourself a handful of positive things. Here are some ideas:
- I am loved.
- I am important.
- I am capable.
- I am smart.
- I am happy.
- I am not a failure.
- I am worthy of love.
Put Yourself First
Many people exiting a marriage find that they have dedicated a large portion of their lives to other people as a parent and spouse. Service is a beautiful thing and characteristic; however, it’s important to take some time for yourself and put some of your wants and needs before others’. Carve out time to do something you love each day. This might be reading, cooking, exercising, napping, taking a bath, or another hobby that brings you joy.
Moreover, remember you are allowed to say “no” to things and that you are not always required to say “yes.” Do not fall into the trap of feeling guilt and agreeing to something that you do not need to do. Remember to make yourself a priority during this time.
Set Goals and Strive for Betterment
Achieving a goal you set for yourself brings such fulfillment and joy. Build up your self-esteem by setting goals and challenges for yourself that are achievable. Be cautious not to set yourself up for failure by setting unrealistic goals. Here are a few keys for success:
- Break down your big goals into smaller, achievable steps.
- Set alerts on your phone or place sticky notes to remind yourself of your goals.
- When progress slows or takes a couple of steps back, do not be too hard on yourself.
- Hold yourself accountable by telling others about your goals.
Contact The Ault Firm
Navigating a divorce on a psychological level can be stressful and taxing and can understandably take up a lot of your focus. The professionals at The Ault Firm know that you are dealing with a lot and want to assist you during this time and help with the legal aspect. Contact our knowledgeable and experienced attorneys to schedule your case review today.