Though you wish for a “happily ever after” when you first get married, the sad reality for many people is that this does not come to fruition. However, with nearly half of all marriages ending in divorce, you can find peace in knowing that you are not alone. Going through a divorce is a very difficult process, but you do not have to navigate the waters blindly. You are capable of coming out on top and finding true happiness again. Here are five things to help you navigate your divorce.
1. Seek the advice of an experienced divorce attorney.
Friends and family will hopefully be your number one allies throughout your divorce however when it comes to advice take it with a grain of salt. They may all be willing to give you their opinion about what you should do, but the truth is, they are not qualified, professionals. It is important to seek advice from an experienced divorce attorney and then move forward from there.
2. Consider mediation.
If your spouse is open to it, mediation is a great tool in reaching a divorce settlement. A mediator is a neutral third-party that can help you discuss and resolve the issues in your divorce. The mediator will not make decisions for you but will help to facilitate you and your spouse in reaching a settlement. Mediation is a popular choice among divorcing couples because it is generally much cheaper and faster than a court trial.
3. Find ways to reduce your stress.
It is important to not let your emotions rule the decisions in your divorce. Avoid situations that will cause high amounts of stress, if possible, and take time to relax frequently. You may want to speak with a psychiatrist or psychologist to work through pressing emotions. This may be exactly what you need to shift your focus from sadness or anger to creating a happy future.
4. Try to keep things civil.
Try to work through things with your spouse as respectfully as possible. Although anger, frustration, and sadness may rule your emotions, it is important to keep things civil in order to reach an agreement. This is especially crucial if children are involved. In addition to that, you need to talk to your spouse to see where they stand on certain issues. Try to understand their vision for what they expect to come from the divorce. This will allow you to negotiate and reach a settlement in a much more respectful way.
5. Know what you want as you reconfigure your affairs.
In addition to speaking to your spouse about their expectations of the divorce, it is important for you to know what you want as well. As you go through finances, beneficiaries, and important documents, you should have a clear vision for how you would like things to end up. Create a new budget that you can easily stick to. It is also important to update your estate planning, if applicable.
Although divorce is not easy, there are ways to make it as stress-free as possible. As you navigate your divorce it is important to seek the advice of an experienced divorce attorney, consider mediation, find ways to reduce your stress, keep things civil, and know what you want. Through careful consideration and planning, you can have a successful divorce and regain happiness once again.